Although technically inaccurate, I consider both of my children to be “adults”. Maybe they can’t drink or vote or whatever, but on a conscious, maturity level. They both made the conscious decision to leave. Not just I want to spend more time with Mom, not an ‘I don’t want to live here anymore’. But a mind, body, and soul leave. An ‘I’m not talking to you again’ type of left.
For awhile I’ll admit, it kind of pissed me off. I don’t understand how one can just not talk to a parent. But that’s just my respect for my parents I guess.
What I don’t understand is the ‘critics’. The people who tell me that because I am the parent, I should be the one calling them and making amends. It’s not like they are little kids. They are of driving age and older. One is a legal ‘adult’. My opinion is that they were old enough to make a conscious decision to leave with no attachment. Why is this my responsibility to make amends? I have repeatedly said that our doors are still open.